A private place to talk about your grown children
Your son or daughter is grown, and something has gone wrong between you. Maybe they stopped calling and never said why. Maybe they're struggling with something you can't fix, and there are grandchildren in the middle. It's hard to talk about with friends, and harder with the rest of the family.
Ember is a private place to talk about your grown children with an AI, by voice or text, at any hour. It listens, remembers what you said, and knows how things went for other parents who stood where you are: what they tried, and what happened after. It won't tell you what to do.
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In beta · 18+ · Nothing you tell becomes a public post.
What other parents asked
Every situation people keep coming back to has a public page on Ember, where you can read what the people there asked and how it went for them, drawn from what they went through and never with anyone's name or words.
- Being estranged from an adult child — "How do people keep asking without pushing their child further away?"
- Watching an adult child struggle with drug addiction — "What did people try before deciding to set a limit?"
- Being estranged from a grandchild — "Should people keep reaching out or wait?"
From the Ember blog: Estranged from your adult child, and never told why · My adult child is addicted to drugs: what did other parents do?
If it's about your siblings, your parents, or your in-laws, there's more on talking about your family.
How talking to Ember works
- You talk, privately. Start with the last call, the message that went unanswered, the holiday that didn't happen, or the worry you carry every day.
- Ember listens with what others lived. Behind the conversation, it draws on what other parents went through, so it can ask what they found themselves asking and tell you how it went for them.
- Stories, only with a yes. When a parent who stood where you are has said yes to sharing, Ember may offer you their story to read. You choose.
- People, when you're ready. Later, if you want, Ember can introduce you to someone you'd get along with, or to a small room about something you love. Nothing you said to Ember is shown to them.
Once you've said enough, Ember writes it into one clear page in your own words: your Ember.
What Ember is not
Ember is an AI. It isn't family therapy, counseling, legal advice, or an emergency service, and it won't decide for you. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. If you're thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 any time to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. For help with a family member's drug use, the SAMHSA National Helpline is free and confidential at 1-800-662-4357.
Is it private?
Nothing you tell becomes a public post. No one can read your Ember unless you separately say yes. Read exactly how privacy works on Ember.
Frequently asked questions
Is there somewhere private to talk about my estranged adult child?
Yes. Ember is an AI you can talk to about your grown children by voice or text, on the web, in the Ember: Talk It Out app for iOS and Android, by phone call, or by text message. Nothing you tell becomes a public post, and you can start without an account.
Will Ember tell me whether to reach out or wait?
No. Ember listens and helps you see what matters to you, and what you might be missing. It can tell you how it went for parents who reached out and for parents who waited, but the decision stays yours.
How is this different from a parents' forum?
You don't post anything or read through threads. You talk privately, and Ember brings you what other parents went through, and, only with their yes, one person's story.
Does it cost anything?
Ember is in beta, and we’re starting to test subscriptions with some new accounts. Most accounts aren’t asked to subscribe. If yours is, you’ll see it up front — $9.99 a month after a free trial, and nothing is charged unless you choose to subscribe.
Is Ember family therapy?
No. Ember is an AI, for one person to talk things through. It isn't therapy, counseling, or an emergency service.
You don't have to have it figured out to start. Say the part that's on your mind.
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In beta · 18+ · Nothing you tell becomes a public post.
Ember is an AI. It isn't therapy or an emergency service. Made by Oriscen Inc. · 18+
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