A private place to talk about a breakup
Maybe it ended weeks ago, or months, and it still comes back at odd hours. Maybe you're waiting to see if they'll reach out, replaying the last conversation, or still living under the same roof. Your friends have heard it already, and the one person who would understand is the one you can't text.
Ember is a private place to talk about a breakup with an AI, by voice or text, at any hour. It listens, remembers what you said, and knows how things went for other people after a breakup: what they tried, and what happened after. It won't tell you whether to reach out or move on.
Talk it out now · Join Ember — one text
In beta · 18+ · Nothing you tell becomes a public post.
What people after a breakup asked
Every situation people keep coming back to has a public page on Ember, where you can read what the people there asked and how it went for them, drawn from what they went through and never with anyone's name or words. A few of the ones about breakups:
- Waiting for an ex to reach out after a breakup — "Should I reach out first, or keep waiting?"
- Still having feelings for an ex — "How do I stop replaying it?"
- Being left unexpectedly by a romantic partner — "Why did they leave when everything seemed fine?"
- Letting go of a relationship that still has feelings — "Why do people keep going back even after leaving?"
- Grieving the end of an unwanted relationship — "How do people stop wanting someone back?"
- Trying to cut contact with an ex who keeps hurting you — "Did cutting contact actually stop the hurtful behavior?"
- Living with an ex after breaking up — "How do people avoid each other in the same house?"
Other situations people have brought to Ember: someone who left and may never come back · being left without explanation after a long relationship · keeping no contact with an ex · missing an ex while choosing not to go back · an ex who has started contacting you again · someone who keeps coming and going · someone who won't commit · waiting for someone to return your feelings · ending a long relationship after repeated mistreatment · afraid to date again after a painful breakup · someone who suddenly stopped responding · grieving a long relationship and the life you shared · still loving an ex who refuses to change · missing who an ex used to be · being cut off by a partner who stopped communicating · waiting for someone to choose you · sending a final message to end contact · realizing someone you love does not want you · struggling to be alone after losing a relationship that felt safe
From the Ember blog: How to stop thinking about your ex, when you still have feelings · Going through a breakup: where can I talk about it? · Going through a divorce: who can I talk to? · Will my ex come back? · Your partner left out of nowhere · Feeling lonely after a breakup · No contact with an ex who keeps hurting you · I miss my ex but I don't want them back · Still loving an ex who won't change
How talking to Ember works
- You talk, privately. Start with the text you keep drafting, the conversation you keep replaying, or the small sign you can't stop reading into.
- Ember listens with what others lived. Behind the conversation, it draws on what other people went through after a breakup, so it can ask what they found themselves asking and tell you how it went for them.
- Stories, only with a yes. When someone who went through it has said yes to sharing, Ember may offer you their story to read. You choose.
- People, when you're ready. Later, if you want, Ember can introduce you to someone you'd get along with, or to a small room about something you love. Nothing you said to Ember is shown to them.
Once you've said enough, Ember writes it into one clear page in your own words: your Ember.
What Ember is not
Ember is an AI. It isn't therapy, counseling, or an emergency service, and it won't decide for you. If the hurt has turned into despair or thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 any time to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If an ex is threatening you, controlling you, or won't leave you alone, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is there any time at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
Is it private?
Nothing you tell becomes a public post. No one can read your Ember unless you separately say yes. Read exactly how privacy works on Ember.
Frequently asked questions
Is there somewhere private to talk about a breakup?
Yes. Ember is an AI you can talk to about a breakup by voice or text, on the web, in the Ember: Talk It Out app for iOS and Android, by phone call, or by text message. Nothing you tell becomes a public post, and you can start without an account.
Will Ember tell me whether to reach out to my ex?
No. Ember listens and helps you see what matters to you, and what you might be missing. It can tell you how it went for people who reached out and for people who waited, but the choice stays yours.
How is this different from talking it over with friends?
You can say it as many times as you need, at any hour, without wondering what they'll think of your ex next time. And Ember brings you what other people went through after a breakup, and, only with their yes, one person's story.
Does it cost anything?
Ember is in beta, and we’re starting to test subscriptions with some new accounts. Most accounts aren’t asked to subscribe. If yours is, you’ll see it up front — $9.99 a month after a free trial, and nothing is charged unless you choose to subscribe.
Is Ember a substitute for a therapist?
No. Ember is an AI, for one person to talk things through. It isn't therapy or an emergency service.
You don't have to have it figured out to start. Say the part that keeps coming back.
Talk it out now · Join Ember — one text
In beta · 18+ · Nothing you tell becomes a public post.
Ember is an AI. It isn't therapy or an emergency service. Made by Oriscen Inc. · 18+
Privacy · Terms · Ways to use Ember · contact@oriscen.ai
You can start right now
No account to begin. Say as much or as little as you want.
Talk to Ember