We opened our marriage and now another woman is pregnant—can we survive this?

Even though my husband’s infidelity was only emotional, sharing the same roof with him still feels suffocating.What can I do

I have been married to my husband for seven years. I discovered three years of detailed notes and unsent messages about a female coworker; he says their relationship was emotional and never physical. We have not divorced and still live under the same roof, but we have become strangers.

When the woman earns more, how do you keep the respect and emotional balance in the relationship?

When my wife was my girlfriend, she had graduated about a year earlier and earned more than I did, while my new job paid very little and I had only 300 yen in my pocket. We had decided to live together, and we sometimes quarreled about money and purchases because I felt proud and did not want her to spend more on me.

How can I make sense of having invested so much and chosen to stay, then losing the dream anyway, so that I can move forward?

I spent several years on a hardware project that began with enthusiasm but became draining through ineffective communication and overtime. After a failed acceptance and colleagues being dismissed, I chose to stay because a new leader and the hardware market gave me hope. Although we eventually passed acceptance, budget constraints stopped the product from being updated, and I realized the project was finished.

How can I tell whether leaving is the right choice when I still care about her but feel that my efforts have not made the relationship feel close or mutual?

I have been trying hard to make my girlfriend happy for about a year, including spending money on gifts and activities, but I still feel lonely, shut out of parts of her life, and unsure that she really knows or wants to know me. I am now wondering whether I should leave.