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We meet up every week, part ways after being intimate, and stay out of each other's personal lives. Should I keep this arrangement going?

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“ I meet a man almost every weekend at his apartment; we eat together, watch something, have sex, and part the next morning. We do not check in during the week or ask about each other’s plans or personal lives. Lately, I have wanted to know more about him and wonder whether this arrangement is still enough for me. ”

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