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How do I decide whether staying in this cold, empty marriage or divorcing would be healthier for my son?

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“ My husband and I have been separated for almost a year, but we still act like a family in front of our five-year-old son, who asks when his father is coming home. Our marriage feels emotionally dead, and I feel torn between staying together for him and divorcing. ”

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