How do I tell when protecting or guiding him is truly necessary, rather than interrupting his choices because I am uncomfortable or want him to obey?

How can I let my family know what I need while maintaining space and not having a conversation before I am ready?

I recently came close to attempting suicide, was hospitalized, and am not ready to talk with my family even though they keep reaching out.

How can I let my parents know that I need space without having to explain my choices or have a deeper conversation before I am ready?

I have built an independent life, and over time my parents stopped understanding my choices and where I am. I have gradually stopped trying to explain myself and can no longer be as candid with them as I was growing up.

How can I tell whether leaving is the right choice when I still care about her but feel that my efforts have not made the relationship feel close or mutual?

I have been trying hard to make my girlfriend happy for about a year, including spending money on gifts and activities, but I still feel lonely, shut out of parts of her life, and unsure that she really knows or wants to know me. I am now wondering whether I should leave.

I would want to know if other parents have had that too, a hot stretch where their kid suddenly seemed years older.