Wanting an ex to understand the harm they caused
1 person has stood here
Once five people have stood here, you can ask what they went through.
Going through this yourself?
Ember thinks it through with you, wherever you start.
Nearby on the tree
- Wanting to tell an estranged ex about a terminal illness1
- Still wanting to return to an abusive relationship9
- Still having feelings for an ex8
- Missing an ex who has moved on8
- Wanting to contact an ex despite a no-contact order1
- Waiting for an ex to reach out after a breakup8
Only the place shows here. What people told stays theirs.
How this page works
Why is there nothing to read here?
Ember answers questions on a light only once five people have stood there, so no answer can be one person’s story. Not yet, here.
What appears once there are five?
A place to ask what they went through: what they tried, what changed, what came after. Ember reads all of their pages together and answers only with what at least two of them share.
What does “stood here” mean?
Each of them told Ember something that happened to them, and their page was placed on this light. The pages stay theirs; only the count is public.
What happens if I tell my part?
You get one clear page of what happened, in your words, yours to keep. Nobody sees it. If Ember later finds one person who lived something close, it asks you first whether you want it to ask them.