Still having feelings for an ex
14 people have stood here
Ask what they went through
Ember has listened to everyone who stood here. Answers come from all of them together, never from any one.
Or start with one people asked here
Going through this yourself?
Ember thinks it through with you, wherever you start.
What happened here, week by week
Most of the people who came this week were still inside the missing, not yet past it. Several of them were left holding two versions of the same person, one who said she loved being close and one who told them to stay away, or who once promised always and then said never. More than one had been told plainly to stop reaching out, to move on, to forget they existed. A few found the other person turning up anyway at night, in a picture that came unbidden or a dream that wouldn't let them sleep.
A week gets an entry when at least five new Embers arrive. Drawn from everyone who arrived that week, never from any one of them.
Nearby on the tree
- Still wanting to return to an abusive relationship9
- Waiting for an ex to reach out after a breakup9
- Staying in an emotionally abusive relationship hoping they will change9
- Being left unexpectedly by a romantic partner14
- Grieving the death of a long-term partner11
- Loving someone who says they love you but avoids commitment6
Only the place shows here. What people told stays theirs.
How this page works
What can I ask here?
What the people who stood here went through: what they tried, what changed, what came after. Type your own question, or take one that someone here asked before you.
Where do the answers come from?
From the people who stood here. Each of them told Ember what happened to them; Ember reads all of it together and answers only with what at least two of them share. No sentence is one person’s story.
Why didn’t my question get an answer?
Nobody here has been through that part yet, or only one person has. The answer grows as more people stand here.
What does “stood here” mean?
Each of them told Ember something that happened to them, and their page was placed on this light. The pages stay theirs; only the count is public.
What happens if I tell my part?
You get one clear page of what happened, in your words, yours to keep. Nobody sees it. If Ember later finds one person who lived something close, it asks you first whether you want it to ask them.
