Making yourself smaller to avoid a partner’s anger
1 person has stood here
Once five people have stood here, you can ask what they went through.
Going through this yourself?
Ember thinks it through with you, wherever you start.
Nearby on the tree
- Having your feelings dismissed by someone you are dating12
- Staying in an emotionally abusive relationship hoping they will change8
- Suspecting your partner is hiding something from you18
- Staying in an abusive relationship because it is home11
- Wanting intimacy from a partner who does not reciprocate15
- Trying to save a marriage when your spouse won't try15
Only the place shows here. What people told stays theirs.
How this page works
Why is there nothing to read here?
Ember answers questions on a light only once five people have stood there, so no answer can be one person’s story. Not yet, here.
What appears once there are five?
A place to ask what they went through: what they tried, what changed, what came after. Ember reads all of their pages together and answers only with what at least two of them share.
What does “stood here” mean?
Each of them told Ember something that happened to them, and their page was placed on this light. The pages stay theirs; only the count is public.
What happens if I tell my part?
You get one clear page of what happened, in your words, yours to keep. Nobody sees it. If Ember later finds one person who lived something close, it asks you first whether you want it to ask them.
